When I was a young child, I used to be very scared about gentle parenting. I would try to keep myself away from strangers and people in authority, which caused me to have problems with people who took advantage of my young naivety. I knew there was something wrong about this but I did not want to tell anyone about it because I was worried about how I would be treated.
As a teenager, I had the same problem and when I went back to school, I could not be honest with anyone because I was afraid that someone would laugh at me and think that I was a crazy person. I hated that person.
Being A Good Parent
I now realize that there is more to being a good parent than fear about what others think about gentle parenting. The problem is that we always seek out the approval of other people. We seek out and put up with our share of judgmental comments because we want their approval, or we wish to feel good about ourselves.
If you are afraid of being accepted by other people, then you need to realize that you need to accept yourself first before others will ever accept you. It is very important to find something in your life that makes you happy. You need to get rid of things in your life that make you miserable.
In today’s society, we have too many people that want instant gratification. They always want instant happiness. Some of them are right and some of them are not. However, it is no longer possible to find that thing in life that is making you happy because it is not there anymore.
But do not let this new world of yours tell you that you cannot be happy with the things that you are doing. It is not you that needs to be cured, it is the negative people who have been forcing you to be unhappy with your life. Do not allow them to make you feel bad about yourself. You are the one who needs to change and not them.
People that are in authority make us scared to even consider about gentle parenting. It scares us. Many of us have accepted our bosses as being right about everything. We are not good at listening to them. We can only be thinking about what they want us to do.
Fear Of Listening
So how do we get over the fear of listening to our boss? First, we must stop looking at our boss as the authority on everything. It is a personal decision to accept the rules and go along with them.
Second, we must figure out what makes us feel good about ourselves and stop doing things that cause us to feel sorry for ourselves. Instead, we must find something that we do that we enjoy doing. We should have the right to have fun because this will help us to make life and ourselves better.
Third, we should find out why our boss thinks the way he thinks. This is not an easy thing to do because it requires that we give ourselves permission to look at our boss and ask him why he thinks the way he thinks. We have to know what causes him to think about the way he thinks and change those thoughts.
Feelings & Emotions
As a parent, we need to learn about gentle parenting and we need to teach our children to be gentle. We also need to be gentle with ourselves. We need to be honest with ourselves about our own feelings and emotions and about other people.
There are many good things that can come from this kind of self-acceptance. Even if we are fearful of what other people might think about gentle parenting, we need to be honest about ourselves and stop trying to hide who we are and why we are who we are.